Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
When you’re struggling to finish something you’ve been obsessing over for a while, sometimes the best thing to do is to give up.
I often discover the thing I’m looking for, on the way to the shower, sitting on the toilet, in the midst of sweeping the sidewalk, in… Read more...
Sometimes I feel lonely, not the loneliness that comes with accrued time in solitude but the deeper singularity of realizing that, mathematically speaking, there’s no one like me out there.
This is not meant to be sad.
With the complexity and randomness of genetics, combined … Read more...
For whatever reason, the sky has cracked open and the Gods have chosen you. A column of light is shining down on the earth, brighter and hotter than the sun and it’s all on you.
It doesn’t take long to realize this is not the kind of thing you want to be chosen for.
You… Read more...
I’m so absent-minded this morning, I put on my reading glasses and then started looking for them on my desk.
Hard news does that. It takes you out of life and puts you in a stupor, in a murky haze with no walls and no exit.
I’ve been lucky. Not much hardship for me but,… Read more...
Six people, including me, in a matter of minutes, disintegrate into selfish pettiness…
The woman in the “15 Items or Less” checkout lane with well over 20 items piles her tower of cans onto the tiny conveyor belt, careful not to look back at us.
The checkout clerk… Read more...
I have a tendency, particularly when in the hardware store, to buy up things just in case I’ll need them. More times than not, I do not need them.
I’ve tried to stop this behavior since my basement is getting full and my pockets are getting empty, with no real win at t… Read more...
Deep down we all want to be around people that tell us things we don’t want to hear.
Think about it. We’re running around in our own heads all the time, jogging by the same landmarks, getting tired in the same places. The stories we tell ourselves get old, even the one… Read more...
When preparing for an interview, the tendency is to look at what the employer wants (i.e. the job description) and figure out how to fit into that. Well, you should, indeed, know what the employer wants, but that’s not the place to start…
Instead, go back to the basics… Read more...
I was searching for a dining room table on Craig’s List and came across a beauty that fit all of our criteria. AND it was new. AND it was priced at 75% of the retail price, which was still a hefty chunk of change.
When I inquired, the seller came back with an enthusiastic em… Read more...
Man, I like helping people.
“Help” is supposedly a weak word; it’s a no-no for resumes. One should never say “Helped with account…” One should always say “co-administered account…” or “Supported account…” or s… Read more...