Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
My daughter doesn’t have to think very long when she goes into an ice cream shop.
“Pink” she shouts out, pointing to whatever is pink.
Doesn’t matter if it’s strawberry or raspberry or cotton candy. She digs in and eats it, gleefully.
Meanwhile, my adul… Read more...
Getting let go from work is like getting hit by a bus.
And like getting hit by a bus, people who get fired, laid off, or asked to leave often experience PTSD (post-traumatic-stress-syndrome). I see it more often than you might think.
The symptoms show up in one’s work history… Read more...
Every morning, before the sun rises and after my meditation, I ask myself an important question:
What one thing do I want to have accomplished by the end of today?
It’s a question I ask my future self, who is always looking to feel accomplished and who can be quite a grouch c… Read more...
Things I hear from clients all the time:
“I should have been a ___________.”
“I wish I didn’t stay at this job so long.”
“If only I had known.”
“It’s too late now.”
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Regret is like a bitter root in your tea.
Its purpose … Read more...
During COVID, most high schoolers took the opportunity to remain anonymous in class. That is, they opted to turn off their camera and become a black square for the year. Picture 32 black squares on a screen. Everyone did this.
But not my daughter. She kept her camera on, made face… Read more...
It is in the eyes of those that love us most where we allow ourselves to break down.
Most of us have experienced it: a look, a touch, a text. It’s not what it says; it’s who it’s from.
That’s all it takes. The dam breaks, the flood finally wins.
We compartmen… Read more...
On my way to drop off my daughter at school, sometimes I catch a funny radio segment on the Marcus & Sandy show called “Second Date Update.”
Marcus and Sandy call up someone who ceased communication with another person after a first date and then they ask that some… Read more...
People tend to hold back in making transitions.
We get safely stuck in planning, worried that the first step we take will be in the wrong direction.
Ironically, we waste time by worrying we’re going to waste time.
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Don’t wait to become what you want to be.
Start liv… Read more...
We all like nice people.
Well, nice people work hard. Kindness don’t come easy.
It’s not like kindness is the default mode for our personalities like, if we do nothing, we just end up being nice.
Nah. Kind of the opposite, actually.
Kindness is an everyday effort, a muscl… Read more...
WordPress allows you to tag your posts so people can search them by category. Here are some of my categories:
Anxiety, Career Happiness, Change & Movement, Daily Mindfulness, Emotions, Empathy, Gratitude, Job Search Zen, Life Transitions, Overcoming Fear, Parenting, Power &… Read more...