Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
“Hey, just checking in. How you doing?”
Man.
So few words, so much impact.
So much love around you in an instant.
Whether you’re good or not so good, you feel seen, remembered, and held.
And if you haven’t gotten one of these sweet sweet checkins in a while, th… Read more...
4th and 5th grade was my soccer heyday. We were good and mostly all friends. We’d won the state championships. And when we had each other over for playdates, all we wanted to do was play soccer.
Dave, one of my besties, invited me over and we almost immediately begged his da… Read more...
Everyone knows the saying “Don’t Know What you Got ‘Til It’s Gone.”
But here’s a new one, something that’s equally universal but with a positive spin.
Don’t Know What You Need ‘Til it’s Here.
Often times we go dark and get … Read more...
I made a pamphlet.
It’s a trifold brochure that sits on my monitor stand between the paintbrush my art teacher gave me and the ticket stub to a giant human maze me and my daughter conquered in Montana.
On the cover is a picture of Molly, carefree and on a boat.
Inside are list… Read more...
It happens inadvertently, but it’s happened enough that I can call it a trend:
I career-counsel my Lyft drivers.
It seems like the common thread among Lyft drivers is being in the midst of seeking something else.
Most are entrepreneurs with big ideas, some have suspended caree… Read more...
Too often we let the mood we wake up in determine our day.
Don’t forget that you’re the CEO of your mind. Don’t settle for the first proposal. If you aren’t dazzled by the thoughts you woke up with, put something else in there. Think about someone who is g… Read more...
We had 40 minutes to kill between dropping off our friends at the airport and picking up Evaline at the zoo, so I resorted to the obvious choice: pizza. Hazel and I share a love of East Coast pizza, so we navigated our way to a joint I know and like. She could hardly contain hers… Read more...
Perhaps the goal shouldn’t be to have more happy thoughts.
Instead, maybe we should aim to hold onto our unhappy thoughts a little less tightly.
Self-criticism is necessary for growth and transformation. It’s a genetic tool to keep us evolving. But we often forget that … Read more...
I have a Post-it on my wall that reads: “Done is better than perfect!” (with an exclamation point, because sometimes I have to yell at myself!).
I got the phrase from a client who saw it written with a sharpie on the wall of her break room. She’s in the tech indu… Read more...
I finally got rid of my college anxiety dreams, the ones where I can’t find my class on the first day, or where I lose my schedule and don’t know where to go, or how I failed to realize I enrolled in a class and still had to sit for the final exam…
It was hard to… Read more...