Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
I sat at a table full of women, aged 15 to 70, and they all unanimously agreed:
Men don’t listen.
What a thing to hear!
50% of the population is missing out. (I’ll let you decide which 50 I’m talking about.)
This is apparently such a prevalent problem that the next … Read more...
Say it with me.
No, I don’t want to 10X my business. I don’t want 30-40 more client leads than I already have. I don’t want to create an “effortless passive revenue stream” so I can parasail on the Galapagos Islands or eat the rarest of birds.
I don… Read more...
My dad suggested I get my car detailed. Trust me, he said, it’ll be like new.
He was right.
I swear it drives like new. My wife thinks so too.
That’s some strange psychology.
If I wash my keyboard, will it click faster? If I make my bed, will I sleep better?
Appearance can … Read more...
Being a career coach in Silicon Valley, I hear a lot of stories of failure from entrepreneurs.
Indeed, anyone who has taken a shot at a startup has a ‘failure story’ to tell.
As a resume writer, I’ve figured out the way to tell ‘failure story’ honestly… Read more...
Dear People of Color and Woke White Allies,
I appreciate what you’re doing, but you can confront with compassion, you know.
You don’t have to be a dick.
Shaming people is like sending them to the corner. Canceling them is like sealing them behind a brick wall. (I thought… Read more...
We’d be a whole lot better off if members of the in-group reached out to those in the out-group.
This goes for all situations:
From the head cheerleader texting the smelly kid to the boss working the line to cops saying they’re sorry.
What if… Read more...
I grew up on Hip Hop, studied Yo! MTV Rap videos with my brother to learn how to move, bought the albums, mouthed the lyrics on the bus.
The lyrics. Yikes.
I was singing “Poison” by Bel Biv DeVoe the other day – a seemingly benign recitation… And then I got … Read more...
I’m done with stories of oppression — Twelve Years of a Slave, The Piano, The Handmaid’s Tale…
I need no more evidence of our ugliness. I know it’s there. It’s so there.
And I don’t need what comes after that either: vengeful violence of a … Read more...
When we challenge someone’s core beliefs — their religion, their politics (which are often one and the same) — we threaten their worldview.
Our comments cut the line to their anchor.
And, somehow, we expect them to thank us for this.
No one wants to drift into the … Read more...
Humans are strange. Our way of dealing with stress is to summon more of it.
When we’re caught in a tough situation or we get a cold or our luck is different than usual, we tend to say something like:
“This kind of stuff doesn’t happen to me…”
“I&#… Read more...