Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
The problem is the show we want to be on and the one we want to watch are two completely different shows.
The show we want to be on is a romantic comedy, the one where missed connections and happenstance lead to weddings and babies and new jobs. We already know the ending before i… Read more...
On the plane ride home from the east coast, I sat next to a guitarist in a pretty well-known jam band. He’s engaged to be married, has played all the big venues in the Bay Area, loves chocolate wafer cookies (“the most underrated snack”), always travels with his… Read more...
School drop-off was hard today. My little pre-schooler was having a mini panic attack on the way to the reading room. She did that jagged breathing and crying thing that kids do and she wouldn’t let go when I hugged her goodbye. I swear I could feel her anxiety passing out … Read more...
“I’m sorry.”
This is something you’ll never hear on a debate stage or in a board room. We’ve cast it out as a sign of weakness when, indeed, it’s the opposite.
People who apologize are showing they are courageous and intelligent because they̵… Read more...
I’ve gotten rid of all my recurring nightmares — the big snake dream, the naked dream, the skunk dream, the homework dream.
My trick?
I bring the real me into the dream world. It’s like showing an architect a house they built. They know all the rooms and doors. Th… Read more...
Seems like every election cycle is more and more pivotal. Or perhaps we just care more and more as we get older…
Whatever your cause or case or situation, you probably believe, like the rest of us, that this election is going to make or break the country. We’re all hop… Read more...
Video is not enough anymore. Objectivity is gone. There is only storytelling, and the storytellers rarely work with what’s in front of them. They care more about what’s inside them.
We do whatever is necessary to keep our own beliefs intact.
Two people can watch the sam… Read more...
I’m in standstill traffic driving on a 4-lane road (2 lanes on each side) heading into Santa Cruz for the Fourth of July.
I need to make a right in about a hundred feet but I’m in the left lane. The minute I put on my blinker the driver to my right lurches forward to c… Read more...
It’s a beautiful thing to support someone suffering oppression, to be a self-less ally who steps into their own discomfort for the greater good…
But watch yourself, white people. Condemning other white people is the easy way out. Vilification is a selfish act, not a se… Read more...
I got to be small for 5 hours between San Francisco and D.C…
Sitting in a plane by the bathroom allows you to experience the world as a child sees it.
There is a continuous line of towering adults standing just inches from you, not paying attention to you, talking above you i… Read more...