Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
My dad is black and I’m mixed race but I look white, which, I’ve come to realize, means I’m not really black. If you’re a mix of things and wondering what you are, just look at the way the world holds you…
(If that’s too obtuse, think of the cos… Read more...
I’ve always struggled with telling my kids about Santa Claus. I have to look away when I answer their questions, and I try to layer in at least a shred of truth.
I don’t know how he does it. I guess it’s magic.
I’m not thrilled about this.
It’s the only… Read more...
My friend has this great story.
One day he woke up and decided he wanted to go to the beach. The only issue is he had no money and no car and he lived in Pasadena. That’s about 20 miles away.
But he was feeling stagnant so he packed up 6 peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and… Read more...
I’ve been obsessing about digital storage.
Up late on review sites trying to find the best backup drive.
All my precious files from computers, from phones: images, photos, MP3’s, Word documents, PDFs… but really, memories, ideas, accomplishments… love.
My fil… Read more...
As adults with full lives, this often becomes our mantra:
I wish I had more time in the day.
We carry the belief that we need more time. We work hard with the hope that we’ll free ourselves by day’s end and capture that elusive extra time we know is out there somewhere.… Read more...
When we’re going from point A to point B, our instinct is to plug into a podcast. It’s become our thing.
I guess we feel less like we’re wasting time if we have information flowing into our heads, especially when we’re doing something mundane, like cleaning… Read more...
The world moves so quickly.
Prices and temperatures rise, stores change hands, technology reinvents, products cycle out, hip people become unhip, language evolves…
And all of us chasing after these things, trying to stay on top of it all, to be in the know.
I get overwhelmed a… Read more...
The Art of Chill evolves over time. It’s a craft I’ve been practicing since birth.
In youth, it’s about taming your anxiety about the future, being okay with not knowing what lies ahead, taking your hits gracefully. It’s remaining poised and relaxed while … Read more...
My mom is starting to lose her memory.
Sometimes there are sweet moments, like how she reveres a sunset from her balcony while we drink Budweiser tall-boys.
And then there are the hard moments, like when I watch her forget where she is while walking down the street, when she messe… Read more...
When someone you love is struggling, it’s easy to make the mistake of sending too much help too quickly.
Your commotion, though with good intention, is likely causing more waves and people don’t need more waves when they’re drowning.
They need your steady, reliabl… Read more...