Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
Are we innately driven to be kind? Or do we have to work at it?
Is kindness linked to some greater purpose or is it just another goal.
Why am I so obsessed with it?
Where did it come from?
My parents are certainly kind. My mom was a nurse, not just in profession but in her heart. She… Read more...
Me and my friend Jesse had some pretty awesome adventures in Europe in our twenties.
Probably one of the best moments was sneaking into The Most Elite Club in Denmark. That’s how it was described in our travel book.
The Most Elite Club in Denmark. Don’t even try to get … Read more...
My dad is black and I’m mixed race but I look white, which, I’ve come to realize, means I’m not really black. If you’re a mix of things and wondering what you are, just look at the way the world holds you…
(If that’s too obtuse, think of the cos… Read more...
Lately, I’ve been writing about how to replenish yourself in times of stagnancy and distress. Here’s another trick for you:
Creative Collaboration.
Creative Collaboration manufacturers hope. If you’re feeling low, if you can’t find the BrightSide, find a fri… Read more...
As adults with full lives, this often becomes our mantra:
I wish I had more time in the day.
We carry the belief that we need more time. We work hard with the hope that we’ll free ourselves by day’s end and capture that elusive extra time we know is out there somewhere.… Read more...
The choices we make for our kids really show, and test, our values.
My teen is in a prestigious multi-year STEM internship. We literally danced when she got in.
But, she hasn’t been learning anything for a year. She’s bored and says everyone is bored. We checked it out … Read more...
We’d be a lot better off if the people with microphones would commit to saying positive things more often.
Oh, the progress we’d make if we chose to CREATE rather than CRITIQUE!
It’s okay to not like something.
But does that dislike have to be said out loud, into a… Read more...
There’s that trope that teens rebel.
As if, they do it for no reason, like they actually want to make both of us miserable.
It’s not like that.
They’re the new ones.
We, as the adults, are slowing down, partially because we want to and partially because we have to.… Read more...
The Art of Chill evolves over time. It’s a craft I’ve been practicing since birth.
In youth, it’s about taming your anxiety about the future, being okay with not knowing what lies ahead, taking your hits gracefully. It’s remaining poised and relaxed while … Read more...
I’ve been going through old papers. My mom saved everything, especially the art stuff: Half finished pictures, 3 words on an otherwise blank page, an excessively pasty attempt at a pop-up book…
I found a gem.
Apparently, when I was in second grade I wrote my first poem.… Read more...