Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
We go through such great lengths to paint the inside of our rooms… It takes all day, we risk destroying furniture and floors. Taping’s a bitch. It gets much worse before it gets better, and it always takes longer than first envisioned.
But it’s worth it, don̵… Read more...
Sometimes, I resent the world for spinning.
I look around and I see people getting dizzy, falling down, and being crushed. I see them tumbling into the valleys so they can’t see over the mountains anymore, arms reaching up as the clouds move over them and plates shift under … Read more...
I used to think CREATIVITY was about creating stuff. That’s what it looks like on the outside, but if you really look at a person who’s creating, you can see it’s more about chasing a feeling.
Artists – the most committed creators among us – are const… Read more...
Empathy is my ninja power. And yours too, if you want it to be.
Empathy is the way into anyone’s heart. It allows you to stand in their shadow and feel the way the wind hits them. You can witness the healing of a soul when you stand in that place. And you can be part of that… Read more...
I’ve always been afraid of RAGE, namely my own.
Somewhere around 10 years old, I created a place inside me just for RAGE, put it in there and decided to never let it out. But RAGE is a wily one and it put a hit on me from the inside… it got SADNESS & NUMBNESS to s… Read more...
When attacked by the ill feelings of another, be it anger, grumpiness, resentment, or whatever, we often attack back, which is certainly justified, but a silly war to wage.
If it helps, think of the battle as having 3 participants, not just 2. There is you, there is the person who… Read more...
I’m generally a jolly guy so people will probably be surprised when they hear I think about being dead every once in a while. Not in a morbid way, if that’s possible, just as sort of an overreaction to difficult situations, sort of a quick way out of sudden pain or an… Read more...
Ever run into someone who’s in love? When they talk about the one they love, they glow. It doesn’t matter what the subject is; you get a big smile and shining light, and it’s contagious that glow. You want to be around it.
You can use this experience in other sit… Read more...
Moods are personified in babies. Babies don’t have filters. They don’t try to control their moods. We can learn something from this.
My youngest daughter freaked out after her mama hopped out of the car to go to a board meeting. She squealed as if someone had stabbed h… Read more...
Moods don’t own us.
But we act as if they do.
When sad, we tend to let Sadness dictate our entire day: “I’m having a rough DAY.”
Anger is almost always followed by Guilt and then turned inwards: “I hate MYSELF when I’m angry!”
We only allow I… Read more...