Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
I was hard at work prepping for a school fundraiser at my house.
I had just finished calibrating the stereo and microphones. I still needed to set up the auxiliary A/V system (just in case), make blackberry rosemary syrup for the cocktails, trim back the ivy on the stoop, vacuum t… Read more...
I never was one to care much about cuss words.
I use them in front of my kids.
My main concern is that they impede upon their vocabulary development.
Especially the eff-bomb. That word is a bit too versatile. You can use it 4 times in a single sentence.
But these so-called cuss words… Read more...
I was being hard on myself for not finishing a course I’m building.
Then, today after meditating, I remembered myself in high school, in art class, and how long it took me to finish a drawing.
Mr. Cook would usually be the one to say it.
“Cliff, I think you’re just… Read more...
Years ago, I was in court testifying for a friend, and the defense attorney was doing his thing: trying like hell to discredit me. (Good luck with that, bruh.)
“So you’re saying you drank some beer and smoked a few bowls.”
He said this in a lazy faux-SoCal sort of… Read more...
Another shooting, this time at a university.
The killer is still at large. My daughter, 16, usually the pragmatic one, surprised me with her response to the news coverage.
“How sad your life must be to kill a buncha people.”
This made me think about something I learned i… Read more...
In talking with people about their aspirations day-in and day-out, I’ve come to understand that we ALL experience imposter syndrome at some point. (Those of us that don’t, have much bigger problems.)
Here’s the truth: It doesn’t matter how smart you are, wh… Read more...
Everybody hates networking, but no one expresses their disgust more intensely than introverts. (I’m sure some of you already despise this post!)
There’s a myth that introverts are shy people.
Not true.
They can be both shy and introverted, but these things are not one an… Read more...
What good are opinions?
When you stop to think about it, they’re for the opiner more than anyone, a way to say, “I’m here.”
But it’s more than that.
When I hear people giving their opinion, the refrain I hear in my head is usually one of two things:
R… Read more...
They say the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
I guess that means I get no oil.
That’s okay.
When I’m looking for a gutter cleaner or a floor refinisher, I try and be as nice and accomodating as possible.
Have to call me back? No problem. Can’t fit me in this week? That&#… Read more...
It’s counterintuitive.
The more intensely you search, the more you underscore that achy feeling that something is missing.
It’s like when you misplace your keys…
It can ruin your morning.
You would have been much better off not knowing they were gone.
Or at least not… Read more...