Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
Sometimes, when I was staying at my dad’s for the weekend, it would get late, and he’d invite me to stay the night and drive me to school the next morning.
This meant spending one more night on the sofa bed or squeezing into my brother’s twin bed with him, which … Read more...
My heart is tired.
Not from pumping blood but from expelling love, and then watching that love drip into the cracks and dry up on the sidewalk.
There’s the pervasive, every flowing acts of love: caring for kids, near and far, holding that low grade worry that they’ll br… Read more...
I think we know too much about each other.
Or rather, I think we know too much about people we don’t really even want to know.
I moved out of my hometown for a reason.
I love some of the folks there, and I appreciate that it shaped me into who I am, but the place itself wasn&… Read more...
I was making a right at the 7-Eleven. It was still sunny out, so I had both windows rolled down. I was in a good mood, headed to Trader Joe’s to (finally) pick up some olive oil, eggs, and milk so we could (finally) get back to having a normal breakfast.
There wasn’t a… Read more...
Instant replays are all over the World Cup now.
We can roll back the tape to reevaluate history in real-time.
Baseball is doing this new thing where they allow the players to challenge the umpire’s call by tapping their helmet. I first saw it in the minor leagues, but it̵… Read more...
I got a dad who acted like a backhoe operator on Sunday mornings to scoop us up out of bed and carry us to the bathroom to brush our teeth.
I got a dad who, when he watched cartoons with us on the family room floor, laughed out loud so hard that he would buckle over with an elbow … Read more...
It feels good. For them, and for you.
You become more connected to others. Mom, tell me how you met dad.
You live longer.
You can do things you didn’t think you could before.
You are capable of surprising yourself, which, regardless of timing or magnitude, is always a gift.
Lov… Read more...
The most difficult form of parenting to deal with as a child is when the caregiver is inconsistent in their behavior.
Psychologists say this leads to a ‘disorganized attachment style’ for the child. In other words, the child is unable to predict the behavior that’… Read more...
“You’re an artist.”
He said it as a compliment, albeit a bit surprised to see me in this way. Me, the guy writing his resume.
I was busy brainstorming job titles with him. I came up with some ideas he hadn’t thought of. But the real artistry is the fact that… Read more...
I woke into a groggy half-sleep with a pain in my chest.
Seduced by the warmth of the covers and the elusive intoxication of drowsiness, I convinced myself that the best thing to do was to stay put and do some deep breathing.
I breathed in and out, and in my sleep-stupor, I imagine… Read more...