Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
I have this cycle I go through whenever I have an appointment with a client.
About an hour ahead of the appointment, I start to get anxious. Well, not exactly anxious. If I am to be honest, I would say it’s more like resentment that I have this appointment at all. It’s… Read more...
My toddler twirls in front of the TV.
“Look at me, daddy. Look at me.”
A refrain we carry into adulthood in both actions and words. When we cry, when we march, when we tweet, when we design, when we present…
Much like entrepreneurs pitching investors, everything im… Read more...
Touch is easily the most underutilized of the senses…
I learned this from a colleague when I was doing Admissions for a private vocational college. One of the programs was massage therapy and whenever I had a question for the program director, she would roll her chair across… Read more...
Looking to get away?
The next conversation you fall into, let go of everything you know, even the notion that you already know the person in front of you. Listen to their voice ask they talk, the vibration, the up and down of it. See their face, how much their mouth moves, how the… Read more...
Empathy is my ninja power. And yours too, if you want it to be.
Empathy is the way into anyone’s heart. It allows you to stand in their shadow and feel the way the wind hits them. You can witness the healing of a soul when you stand in that place. And you can be part of that… Read more...
When attacked by the ill feelings of another, be it anger, grumpiness, resentment, or whatever, we often attack back, which is certainly justified, but a silly war to wage.
If it helps, think of the battle as having 3 participants, not just 2. There is you, there is the person who… Read more...
I went to an Escape Room the other day, which is essentially placing myself in a Heist Movie – a fantasy come true for me!
Upon going online to give this place 5 stars, I was disheartened by all the bad Yelp reviews: “Too easy, too hard, props need replacing, the layou… Read more...
Comedian George Carlin said, “I love individuals. I hate groups of people.”
Hate is a strong word, George, but I get the sentiment.
The things individuals value most about each other – Compassion. Empathy, Accountability, Love, Vulnerability, Acceptance – ir… Read more...
One thing we can learn from The Great Partisan Divide is that we are all easily manipulated. But the puppeteers, we must realize, are not the media, rather our own emotions.
It’s gotten to the point that when we see a new headline or image, we try to figure out the perspecti… Read more...
My wife’s favorite story about me, the one where she can’t help but laugh as she tells the punchline, is that day I was getting a pedicure in the salon. In noticing all the empty chairs around me, I innocently asked my esthetician:
“Why is it so dead in here?
To w… Read more...