Repetition is the origin of habit. So, in some ways, our jobs – inevitably repetitious to some degree – are formulas for the habits we see in our lives. The patterns we run at work migrate into our personal pursuits. The metaphors we use, the way we approach relations… Read more...
We Are All Cupcakes
One of my clients compared herself to a Hostess Cupcake. “I’m good and chocolatey on the outside but soft and gooey in the middle.” She was referring to the fact that she presents well but has insecurities people can’t see.
“That’s okay,” … Read more...
Follow the Butterflies
I did a webinar this week and right before signing in, I got butterflies in my stomach. The same thing happens when I do karaoke, when writing to publishers, or whenever I enter a new room or prepare to have a difficult conversation.
The instinct is to retract, to get rid of the b… Read more...
For the Good of the Play
If you ask a movie or TV producer for advice, they’ll tell you something like this: “Things will inevitably go wrong. Be ready to deal with that.”
With so many moving parts out of your control, you’re bound to find yourself in an unexpected, perhaps unwante… Read more...
What Not To Wear
Moods don’t own us.
But we act as if they do.
When sad, we tend to let Sadness dictate our entire day: “I’m having a rough DAY.”
Anger is almost always followed by Guilt and then turned inwards: “I hate MYSELF when I’m angry!”
We only allow I… Read more...
Trailblazing vs Path Clearing
When we are thinking of doing something new, we often consider RESEARCH to be the starting point. One of our favorite things to do when approaching a new space is to ask someone else what they did and then ask them what they think we should do.
After all, we’re not looking t… Read more...
The Heist
My daughter and I love heist movies.
It’s so entertaining to watch a person or group of people do the impossible, to come up with a plan to break into a room that’s meant to be unbreakable, to beat the odds with ingenuity, careful calculation, and unrelenting optimism.… Read more...
Calling All Angels
When making decisions, consider talking with angels. Call on someone you’ve lost. It may hurt a little at first but the end result is always positive. When we remember people who have passed (or even people who have moved far away), we long for them, and in that longing, we… Read more...