Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
There are good people everywhere.
Better than that.
Everyone is changing,
like the glint of the sun reflected on the ocean:
a thousand slivers of light
wiggling gently
taking shape,
disbanding,
coming back together,
And, each one of us,
A god for all the others.
With the vibrations in our v… Read more...
When I was in first grade, I spent hours making Valentine’s for the class — big red hearts, topped with square black top hats and a clever message running across the brim in glitter glue.
In college, I baked cookies and passed them around campus.
Then someone told me th… Read more...
The people that you love, they know you love them.
But for some reason, no matter how well you know them or how long you’ve lived with them, saying those words out loud is like a lightning bolt to the heart.
I’m not talking about the “I love you” at the end … Read more...
It’s counterintuitive.
The more intensely you search, the more you underscore that achy feeling that something is missing.
It’s like when you misplace your keys…
It can ruin your morning.
You would have been much better off not knowing they were gone.
Or at least not… Read more...
Be careful when you hear someone say “I’m just telling it like it is.”
This is a shrouded sentence, a hedge to hind behind.
They’re incorrectly inferring there is a singular truth and that they are the brave one who is willing to utter that truth, even if it… Read more...
Not accomplishing enough in your day?
Upon examination, you will likely see sabotage in your list-making.
As you check off your to-do’s throughout the day, if you’re like the rest of us, you’re probably adding more things to the bottom of that same list. Cross off… Read more...
Boat trips, hotel suites, and private beaches are nice but it’s moments like these that make my heart full and put me at ease.
ACT 1:
[Husband and wife in kitchen, standing around table.]
I guess we could make the salmon.
Yeah, it’s gonna go bad.
[Man pulls out salmon. Put… Read more...
I believe you should get an award just for playing.
I believe “E” is for Effort, and Effort is the beginning of everything.
Why wait to be extraordinary?
Take your wins now. Celebrate often.
Whenever you need it.
I got out of bed today.
I made lunch.
I cleaned the dog yard.
W… Read more...
Every morning, before the sun rises and after my meditation, I ask myself an important question:
What one thing do I want to have accomplished by the end of today?
It’s a question I ask my future self, who is always looking to feel accomplished and who can be quite a grouch c… Read more...
Things I hear from clients all the time:
“I should have been a ___________.”
“I wish I didn’t stay at this job so long.”
“If only I had known.”
“It’s too late now.”
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Regret is like a bitter root in your tea.
Its purpose … Read more...