Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
Epiphanies can be deceiving.
Once we figure out the way – Eureka! I’ve found it! – we tend to disregard all other paths. It feels good for a while but, in the fog of euphoria, we stop looking around. Holding tightly to our compass, we become crotchety.
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We’d be a lot better off if the people impacted were the ones making the decisions.
Just as it goes with work, love, and war, Lived Experience is more valuable than Academic Training and Self-Researched Theory when you’re in the trenches.
But for some reason…
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It’s counterintuitive.
The more intensely you search, the more you underscore that achy feeling that something is missing.
It’s like when you misplace your keys…
It can ruin your morning.
You would have been much better off not knowing they were gone.
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Our instinct is to resent constraints.
All of us struggle with telling our life’s story on a single page. And all of us wish we had more hours in the day…
Under such constraints, we often give up and then blame these limitations for our failure.
But if you can put all th… Read more...
I believe you should get an award just for playing.
I believe “E” is for Effort, and Effort is the beginning of everything.
Why wait to be extraordinary?
Take your wins now. Celebrate often.
Whenever you need it.
I got out of bed today.
I made lunch.
I cleaned the dog yard.
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Sometimes I wonder how I can possibly be well-equipped enough to guide people in finding meaning in their lives and careers when I can’t even remember which one of my laundry baskets is socks&underwear and which one is pants&shirts. I still can’t remember whic… Read more...
Every morning, before the sun rises and after my meditation, I ask myself an important question:
What one thing do I want to have accomplished by the end of today?
It’s a question I ask my future self, who is always looking to feel accomplished and who can be quite a grouch c… Read more...
In the epic novel by J.R. R. Tolkien, hobbits GIVE other hobbits presents on their birthdays.
Strange little creatures, but the logic is there: If one person GIVES to many, one day every year, then everyone receives gifts many times per year.
There’s a lesson to unwrap here.
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Things I hear from clients all the time:
“I should have been a ___________.”
“I wish I didn’t stay at this job so long.”
“If only I had known.”
“It’s too late now.”
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Regret is like a bitter root in your tea.
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I like to take notes in a blank sketchbook. I’ve always hated lines and boxes, and writing by hand is more fluid… (see what I did there?).
My notes are thought fragments, shorthand, just enough to remind me what I was thinking.
And in this process, I’ve developed… Read more...