Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
Sometimes I feel lonely, not the loneliness that comes with accrued time in solitude but the deeper singularity of realizing that, mathematically speaking, there’s no one like me out there.
This is not meant to be sad.
With the complexity and randomness of genetics, combined … Read more...
I have a tendency, particularly when in the hardware store, to buy up things just in case I’ll need them. More times than not, I do not need them.
I’ve tried to stop this behavior since my basement is getting full and my pockets are getting empty, with no real win at t… Read more...
“I’ve always thought about doing that.”
I hear this from clients a lot and my response is always the same: Go do that!
This is not necessarily about your calling. It doesn’t matter if this thing becomes your career or not. What matters is that you scratch th… Read more...
On the plane ride home from the east coast, I sat next to a guitarist in a pretty well-known jam band. He’s engaged to be married, has played all the big venues in the Bay Area, loves chocolate wafer cookies (“the most underrated snack”), always travels with his… Read more...
Raise your hand if you have too much on your plate.
Okay, time to delegate. The first step is figuring out what to unload. We all usually make it to this step and then get stuck. We know what we want to get rid of but we keep holding onto it and then perseverate on why we’re… Read more...
I’ve yet to be invited to give a commencement speech to a graduating class… but if I did I’d give this advice, above all:
Set aside 4 hours a week that you will, under no circumstances, overwrite with some other activity, even work, even play, even your very favo… Read more...
I’ve gotten rid of all my recurring nightmares — the big snake dream, the naked dream, the skunk dream, the homework dream.
My trick?
I bring the real me into the dream world. It’s like showing an architect a house they built. They know all the rooms and doors. Th… Read more...
To give you an idea as to how much I think about helping people find their way…
As I was reading a self-help book written in the nineties, I found myself putting aside my own growth to counsel the previous owner of the book who had carefully underlined significant passages a… Read more...
I had a stress dream about being surrounded by skunks, hundreds of them closing in on my feet. I kept thinking, I should jump away, I should jump away, but I can’t jump away because then they’ll attack. So I just stood there, immobile and stressed, until I woke up.
The… Read more...
Perhaps it’s the work I do which requires the baring of souls, but I get this feeling that the whole world is aching, as if we’re all burnt and bloodied fragments from the same faraway explosion, a flash of light against the black, casting off descendants in pieces.
We… Read more...