Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
Oh, what great fortune to have old friends!
Old friends who make you laugh with a word, who tell you like it is, who call you on your shit, who wave to you from your memories…
Old friends have watched you drop your breadcrumbs; they know where you’ve been and how far yo… Read more...
Powerful people are unfaithful commentators. The story they tell is bound together by the desire to retain their pedestal. Who would give up a VIP box seat to sit in the bleachers? No one wants to do that and so power begets power – sometimes intentional, sometimes not.
So, … Read more...
Transitions are hard.
Like a trapeze artist suspended in the air, immediately after letting go of one bar and reaching for another, it’s a matter of time before we start to fall.
It’s scary. Take away that second bar and it becomes downright terrifying, which is often w… Read more...
When we leave a job or a partner, or a residence after so many years, that feeling of being lost is bound to surface. Options overwhelm. Distance suffocates.
The mistake we often make is in where we look to reorient ourselves. We tend to look out into the woods for a marker or the… Read more...
The smartest person in the room is the one who is talking the least.
It’s a simple calculus:
Listening is how you gain knowledge. If you’re talking, you’re not listening, therefore, as the math plays out, those who choose to listen collect more knowledge than thos… Read more...
We go through such great lengths to paint the inside of our rooms… It takes all day, we risk destroying furniture and floors. Taping’s a bitch. It gets much worse before it gets better, and it always takes longer than first envisioned.
But it’s worth it, don̵… Read more...
My toddler twirls in front of the TV.
“Look at me, daddy. Look at me.”
A refrain we carry into adulthood in both actions and words. When we cry, when we march, when we tweet, when we design, when we present…
Much like entrepreneurs pitching investors, everything im… Read more...
Sometimes, I resent the world for spinning.
I look around and I see people getting dizzy, falling down, and being crushed. I see them tumbling into the valleys so they can’t see over the mountains anymore, arms reaching up as the clouds move over them and plates shift under … Read more...
Upon realizing it was raining on the way down to take out the trash, my daughter asked me, “Why do we have the rain… and mosquitoes and spiders and all that? Why can’t it just be ladybugs and humans?”
Answering a child’s questions helps us tackle prof… Read more...
Touch is easily the most underutilized of the senses…
I learned this from a colleague when I was doing Admissions for a private vocational college. One of the programs was massage therapy and whenever I had a question for the program director, she would roll her chair across… Read more...