Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
We love it when the teacher turns off the Powerpoint. We lean in when the President stops reading the teleprompter.
Our favorite Saturday Night Live skits are the ones where the actors can’t stop laughing, miss their cues, or venture off script.
Remember this when interviewin… Read more...
Dear People of Color and Woke White Allies,
I appreciate what you’re doing, but you can confront with compassion, you know.
You don’t have to be a dick.
Shaming people is like sending them to the corner. Canceling them is like sealing them behind a brick wall. (I thought… Read more...
I chose “Group Meditation” on my meditation app today.
What’s that even mean?
I sat alone in my chair in the dark in my little corner of the world. The guided meditation was pre-recorded, so the leader wasn’t even there.
When I closed my eyes, I didn’t… Read more...
We’d be a whole lot better off if members of the in-group reached out to those in the out-group.
This goes for all situations:
From the head cheerleader texting the smelly kid to the boss working the line to cops saying they’re sorry.
What if… Read more...
I meditated so deeply today that my body disappeared.
And I floated up out of my chair, up out of my office, leaving that small square of darkness behind. As I floated up I could see all the rooms, my daughters sleeping, my wife shifting in our bed, the dog by the window, the empt… Read more...
When we challenge someone’s core beliefs — their religion, their politics (which are often one and the same) — we threaten their worldview.
Our comments cut the line to their anchor.
And, somehow, we expect them to thank us for this.
No one wants to drift into the … Read more...
Exactly a year ago, I wrote a post about a Moth at my Window.
The moth, in being attracted to the light of my computer screen, flew into a spider web and nearly died — would have been eaten by the spider— had I not turned off my screen. I cast myself as the hero in tha… Read more...
The headline in my news feed today read: “Best & Worst Moments of the 2020 Music Awards.”
I admit, I was tempted to click on it, but then I had a realization that this headline is what is destroying us.
Sadly, this is all we get now: the best and the worst of everyt… Read more...
You may not realize this:
When I fight, I’m fighting for you.
When I shout Black Lives Matter, it’s not because I think Black Lives are more important than White ones. It’s because I believe most of the problems in this country, problems that negatively impact you… Read more...
Next to death and sex, work is the world’s best-kept secret.
We don’t talk about our work, not in any deep and thorough way, at least. Yet work makes up the majority of our lives, 8 out of 16 waking hours, 5 out of 7 days.
What would happen if we changed that? If we le… Read more...