Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
9am the 2nd Wednesday of the month. And you know what that means!
Everyone up and down Mira Vista Ave has to move their cars to the other side of the street to make way for the street sweeper.
It’d be entertaining to watch a time-elapsed video of all the people, in robes, wit… Read more...
We all seek to be WANTED, to be sought-after for the things we have to offer.
This can become an obsession, especially for us entrepreneurs, inventors, artists, entry-level whatevers, managerial-whatevers-looking-to-be-directorial whatevers, directorial whatevers-looking-to-be-VP … Read more...
It seems obvious but I’ll say it anyway:
If you want to ensure you have a good day, it’s really up to you.
I mean this in a very logistical way. A surefire practice you can start doing to give yourself a smile is to be the first one to reach out. You will rarely be dis… Read more...
I wrote a short story a while back about a garbage man giving life lessons to a Lit major. Okay, it was semi-autobiographical. I was in school at the time doing a summer job painting dumpsters…
The story veered deeper into fiction toward the end as I was trying to figure out… Read more...
That thing you have in your work history that doesn’t fit?
It’s an asset.
Think about it. Everyone’s applying to the same jobs with the same proposal of qualifications, trying to match their lives to the ambitious bullet points in the job requirements as perfectly… Read more...
Shaming doesn’t get us anywhere.
That’s what we tell children, yet as adults we don’t play by the same rules.
Worse still, we shame through our fingertips – not our voices – tapping out one letter at a time in private, safely tucked away from the impac… Read more...
If you want to see real change in yourself, start taking cold showers.
When you take a cold shower (or turn the water ice cold at the end as I do), you’re operating from your future self.
Your future self knows how invigorated you will feel after a cold shower. Your future se… Read more...
Our brains love categories. Our minds are constantly parsing our days into bits and pieces, making decisions and drawing conclusions based on slivers of evidence.
It’s survival, the animal in us protecting our unearned gift of life, forcing us to break into tribes, to play … Read more...
I learned long ago that the bad feelings don’t go anywhere, especially if you try to pretend they’re not there. You
No, the only option, really, in order to get them out, is to let them live inside of y… Read more...
Life becomes unbearably hard as we get older. Piercing despair is already programmed in, particularly if we’ve led a life full of love, giving, connecting, and sharing.
Sometimes the pain gets so great, it’s hard to see or feel anything else. You immediately forget wha… Read more...