Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
We’d be a lot better off if the people with microphones would commit to saying positive things more often.
Oh, the progress we’d make if we chose to CREATE rather than CRITIQUE!
It’s okay to not like something.
But does that dislike have to be said out loud, into a… Read more...
Freedom is a weird thing.
When we declare one freedom, we take away a bunch of others.
If I’m free to drive any speed I want without stopping, then pedestrians lose the freedom to cross the street.
If I’m free to put a stake in the ground and declare a piece of land my h… Read more...
What good are opinions?
When you stop to think about it, they’re for the opiner more than anyone, a way to say, “I’m here.”
But it’s more than that.
When I hear people giving their opinion, the refrain I hear in my head is usually one of two things:
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There are good people everywhere.
Better than that.
Everyone is changing,
like the glint of the sun reflected on the ocean:
a thousand slivers of light
wiggling gently
taking shape,
disbanding,
coming back together,
And, each one of us,
A god for all the others.
With the vibrations in our v… Read more...
How noble is it to fight for the status quo, when you’re the one who is benefiting from it the most?
How courageous is it to follow the ideas, the rules, and the body you were born into?
Isn’t it braver and more admirable to walk into the wind, to stand up at the dinner… Read more...
Most of us are haters, though we hate to admit it.
We are so quick to hate someone outside the room.
We’re particularly good at this when the person outside the room has wronged a person inside the room.
And we’re bonafide pros at hating when the person inside the room i… Read more...
We’d be a lot better off if the people impacted were the ones making the decisions.
Just as it goes with work, love, and war, Lived Experience is more valuable than Academic Training and Self-Researched Theory when you’re in the trenches.
But for some reason…
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It’s counterintuitive.
The more intensely you search, the more you underscore that achy feeling that something is missing.
It’s like when you misplace your keys…
It can ruin your morning.
You would have been much better off not knowing they were gone.
Or at least not… Read more...
I struggle with the new language of gender.
How can one person be a “They.” It don’t square.
I’m an English major. Grammar is God.
But as I make my glued-together argument to preserve the language of my grandfather…
Half the world’s population is g… Read more...
Stereotypes put people in boxes.
When you act on a stereotype, you’re making assumptions based on your ideas about the group you think they belong to. By limiting who they can be before you actually meet them, you’re limiting what you both can gain.
That’s right, … Read more...