Are you getting everything you can out of this life?
A self-less, feel-good blog about love, life, and work by career coach and existential adventurer, Cliff Flamer
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From the outside, finding, discovering, and following the truth can look a lot like becoming brainwashed. Once we settle on the answer and never leave it (even for good reason!), people who think differently may view us as not being able to think for ourselves.
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There is a moment when clients come to realize that I’m the real thing.
It’s usually on the phone, during our initial consultation to discuss their resume, when something clicks into place for them. They see a glimmer from way offshore.
I’m not sure i… Read more...
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Here’s a little test for you.
When you’re away from work and wrapped up in something else, the next time your email notification sound goes off on your phone, stop and notice what happens to you. What emotion pops up?
Anxiety? Joy? Wonder? Dread? Resentment?… Read more...
I can’t live without you.
A refrain echoed in the heart’s of anyone who has loved past their limits.
But isn’t this untrue? It’s quite the opposite really: I love you so hard, you make me want to live.
Fiery red love – and not just romantic love, a lov… Read more...
One time in my youth while on mushrooms in the woods of Iowa, in the middle of a cross-country trip out West, I came to a crossroads.
Literally.
I had strayed from the group, mostly because I was afraid to sit in the tall grass where the snakes were.
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I’m lucky. I get to say things like “I’m glad”, “Good for you,” “You deserve it,” and “I’m so excited for you” every day as part of my job.
I do this by email, by phone, by social media… All day.
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We all have knots we can’t untangle, knots we carry around like hobbies. The problem is, from our perspective, we can’t see the threads so well, at least not at the zoomed-in level you need to be at to untangle the thing. Still, we work at it, slowly over… Read more...
It’s enjoyable to think about all of the turns of phrase and peccadilloes I’ve picked up from important people in my life.
From my art teacher… I use the term “sneak up on it” in reference to taking it slow and steady when working on a large, impossib… Read more...
It seems obvious but I’ll say it anyway:
If you want to ensure you have a good day, it’s really up to you.
I mean this in a very logistical way. A surefire practice you can start doing to give yourself a smile is to be the first one to reach out. You will rarely be dis… Read more...
Shaming doesn’t get us anywhere.
That’s what we tell children, yet as adults we don’t play by the same rules.
Worse still, we shame through our fingertips – not our voices – tapping out one letter at a time in private, safely tucked away from the impac… Read more...